Fitting In vs. Fitting Out

Cass Fits Out is inspired by my opinions and thoughts on what it means to fit in and be normal in today’s society, how we can foster our individuality, and the giving of general slice-of-life content to provide insight and inspiration through my day-to-day shenanigans and revelations for overall better life management. This upload serves as an introduction to my philosophy behind “fitting out” and how it feels to not fit in in today’s world.

Fitting in. The golden egg. The concept that always seems just out of reach… well at least for me. My whole life I have been just shy from what people may call “normal” or “cool.” 

My friends fit in, my family fit in, and even my dog fit in!

I was surrounded by people who fit in, but I just couldn’t figure out what the difference was between them and me. Maybe it was my unrelenting determination to fulfill my parents' belief that I was individualistic and unique, or maybe I just didn’t have what it takes to fit in. 

But what does fitting in even mean?

Is it having a lot of friends? Well, I’ve always had a good group of friends who have loved and supported me.

Is it being the best dressed? I could never shy away from making a striking clothing combo, sure to catch the eye of any fashionista. 

Is it the ability to read a room? More often than not I have excelled in this task, even reading too far into the “vibes” of any group event or gathering. 

I should clearly have what it takes to fit in, but still, I do not. 

There is some intangible and unidentifiable thing that makes me and so many others fall short of this key to normalcy. 

Not fitting in is the “knife in the stomach” guttural feeling of knowing that no matter how you dress, who you hang out with, or where you are from, you're not like other people. You will never be like other people. You will slip up and say, wear, or do the wrong thing that proves to you and everyone else, that you are not like them.

The feeling is isolating and scary. 

When people like me, and maybe you, who have tried so hard to fit in and be like others face constant failure over and over again, it might be a sign that something needs to change. 

If you can't fit in, it’s time to fit out. 

Fitting out is the recognition and acceptance that come from not being like others, the realization that you don’t have to fit in to be accepted and loved by yourself and those around you.

It is the radical change that promotes confidence, self-betterment, and the ultimate form of embracing one's true identity.

To fit out is to wear the clothes, make the friends, and act in the way that allows you to become the happiest and healthiest version of yourself.

Once you fit out not only will you love yourself more, but the ones who are truly meant to be in your journey, will love you more too.

If you are interested in learning more about how to fit out and my journey with fitting out, make sure to check in on Saturday for Weekly Recap 01: How I Learned to Fit Out.